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This year La Wife and I decided, OK she decided and forced me into doing as she wished because deep down she really is evil through and through, to go and do both families dinners again.
Now, keep in mind she thinks that it’s wonderful and all of that but I do have some issues with it.
I am forced to drive all over the State, then try to ear 2 large meals in one day (Mind you that so does not help the diet!), force me to be nice to people I don’t want to see and deal with because I just ate not one but two meals and I am not allowed to take a nap.
I don’t even see my whole family.
Just 2/3rds of them, and yes she wants us to see you too.
Then all of the people I do see pretend to be happy to see me, but as ICP comments about, they only say hello and see me around a big dinner!
This makes me think, a lot of the people I saw don’t know me.
They know my name, how I am related into the circle and little things like that.
Some of them say they love me, when most of them don’t even know my middle name.
I understand that a lot of that is my fault.
I am a recluse, and I do injoy it don’t get me wrong.
But how many of them, or even you, can tell me what some of my dreams and goals are?
How many of you know why I dislike Friday the 13th?
Who can tell me the 2 reality shows I want to go on, and better yet why?
What would someone say about me in my eulogy?
What have I accomplished?
What betterment to the world have I done?
Why do people consider me there friend?
What people around me would think of me in a year and shed a single drop of H2O in my memory?
That being said, do I actually in fact have an effect on anyone’s life?
I am a recluse, that has already been addressed.
Let me say how bad it is though, going for the most contact to the least.
My Wife and I talk of course daily
My Mother-in-law and Sister-in-law and I talk a few times a week, only for a moment but still that’s something … it is still more then I would like :P
My Mother calls me a few times a month, just to say hello and make sure I am alive.
My Father and Step-Father call about 2 times a month, to check on me also or just because something funny made them think about me.
My best friend and I talk on average once every month or so give or take a few weeks.
My Sister and I go months without speaking.
My Brother-in-law and Step-mother speak even less then that.
So, all of that being said, keep it that way!
I don’t want more, we make it work.
More at his point would be an act of pity or regret.
It’s to late, I have made my plans and just have to talk La Wife into it at this point!
I am look around and wonder how this happened?
Some of us have busy jobs, children, church activities and all kinds of other excuses.
Is that an excuse though?
I for one am tired of making a phone call trying to make sure someone is alright and then being told they have to go because they have another call and they will call me back … yea still waiting for that call …
I understand the screaming child in the background, the other work line, even the my _____ just walked in let me call you back.
How about you do that though?
When did people get so busy trying to keep up with the Jones’s that they have forgotten the rest of us?
Fine, you are trying to make a better life for yourself, and your family.
You all spend all of your time working to better your own and your children’s lives but they grow up and never get to know you?
What if you plan to do this, promise to do it, and then get side tracked and say next time … and there isn’t a next time?
As I said, things happen and things come up … people die every day …
So what is my train of though on this you ask?
No, I am not suicidal no matter what certain doctors say!
No, I don’t want people calling me saying they are sorry and or we need to hang out.
I am the one who normal turns down the invites anyway.
It’s to late, you are all dead to me as my sister used to say.
I am tired of being upset wondering what I did to become so unimportant that I never get call back.
Am mean, am I really that anti-social?
So, your acting have pushed my hand and here it is …
I get a little money from the Government every month, and although it is WAY early in my life I can go out on disability.
Then in a mere 23 years I can collect a little something something from the State as a retirement.
Then I will collect Social Security 20 years or so after that, and then La Wife will too.
I know, it isn’t’ a lot of money but it will be enough for what I am thinking about doing!
What is that you might ask?
I’m Moving to Tonga!
What, you don’t know about Tonga?
Let me give you a little run down then.
Wait, no go to this site and read all about it yourself!
http://www.investintonga.com/tonga.html
So, although some of you might be upset, I doubt it though, I also know that some of you will be happy when you finaly deside to come visit me!
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None I didn't know where Tonga was before and now I'm
sure I don't ever want to. I know I won't like the attitudes
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Done So if we comment we're admitting some sort of "guilt" and if we don't, we're once again listed on your blog as a loser without getting to share a defense or our POV.
Smooth.
I love you - but you are SUCH a baby of the family. No matter what, I'm glad you came for Thanksgiving. It's been years since we've had you for a holiday. So thank you. I had had fun. |
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Me Too If I stay on the other side of the island can I come too. I'll cook |
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hmm ... ? Hum, don't feel guilty?
Who said I was talking about you?
The first one to jump to a defense is normally …
HEHE
Could it be that I was talking about, and I am just throwing this out there not that is true just an example, going to my wife’s mothers house to then see her brothers wife’s family and the things they say and do?
I guess my thoughts might not have been as clear as I wanted.
All I really want is for people to stop pretending and lieing to each other, and a call back sometimes.
Not per say a phone call all of the time but if I call out of the blue there might have been a reason I am asking to be called back?
As I said though, I am a hermit and I injoy being one.
I take %90 of the fault.
I also know that we are a busy group, and I am glad for the little bits of time I do get with you … sometimes.
Hehe, who else will comment and think this is about them when in fact it might not be?
Tonga does look wonderful though!
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hmm Whoa right there, Angry Man. I feel like I am as close to you as you will allow me to be. I don't call just to see how you are; I usually have something I think you will think is funny or interesting or just because I want to say hi and see what you're up to. I have no guilt connected with anything about you; maybe you think I need to have some but I don't. I've called a couple of times to see about doing something with you and La Wife only to be told I didn't call early enough in the week to make plans with you. I love you; I think you're funny and smart and way out there, somewhere; and I love to hang out with you. La Wife is so smart and so interesting and I love being with her; I just want to get to know her better. That said, it is sooooo up to you if you make time for me because I do try, so if you're feeling out of the loop, I really don't think it's my fault. I really, truly don't. And people do have lives and kids and jobs and callings and other friends and responsibilities and some big worries and fears you don't even know about that they're trying to work through and I get all of that because I've been there and done that and I try to cut people some slack and I don't think they don't like me if they don't have time to chat at the same time I do. I go weeks without talking to Sis, sometimes, and then, when we connect, we talk for hours. Or, she has five minutes on the way to a gymnastics class and I have five minutes on the Turnpike, and we use those five minutes to talk fast and furious . . . and that's ok with me because I got those five minutes and it was fun. I usually call you on my way to work because I know you're up and I have a 45 minute drive so I can get in a good few minutes with you.
Nope, I don't know all of your dreams and hopes and wants . . . but you don't know mine, either. Would you want me to call you and say, "Hey, guess where I want to be living/doing in twelve years," because that's how long it will be before I retire . . . unless the Osceola County government has completely imploded, by that time, and if you want to talk about big time worries and fears, let me hand you that one and I 'll try to get some sleep, for a change. Did I mention we don't know how we'll be funded after this fiscal year? There are so many things that are just so darned scary, in my life, and that I worry about, constantly. Good thing for all that red dye because I know I must be completely grey.
I'm sorry having to drive around to be with people who only wanted to get to spend some time with you and La Wife was such an unhappy burden to you. I'm not being sarcastic; I really am sorry. We were all so excited you were coming and we loved you two being with us. If it's too much for you and you can't do it again, that's all right, too. Family time shouldn't feel like an obligation- it should be something that's fun and life affirming and that builds connections and memories and if that isn't what it is or you . . .
Tonga will be beautiful; I hope it's everything you're looking for. |
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